Author’s note: I wrote this post in 2016, while Dave was already living with early Alzheimer’s, although he had not yet been formally diagnosed. I understood that something was happening to him, but I didn’t recognize some of the things I was seeing in this post as early signs of Alzheimer’s. Looking back now, I can see them clearly. I’m including this older post in my Alzheimer’s journey series because it shows how the disease was affecting our lives in ways I didn’t fully recognize at the time.
RCIA and Annulments
It has been quite a while since I’ve written anything. I’ve been so busy dealing with everyday life to include hubby, my fish, RCIA, and work. No, the annulments have not yet gone through. Well, I take that back. My husband’s marriage to his last ex-wife has been annulled. She has been remarried repeatedly since their divorce. She was also married once before she married Dave. That annulment went through lickety split.
The other ex-wife of his, as it turns out, was never Catholic. He is still waiting on that annulment. I am still waiting on mine. Dave’s is the hold up. Mine is just waiting for a signature from another priest.I may end up still attending RCIA through next year if they don’t happen soon. I enjoy learning, and Catholicism is fascinating; however, I want to go deeper than what RCIA is teaching. With a Bible class once a week, plus RCIA, I don’t have a lot of time to delve deeper on my own. We are studying the book of Acts, and it is exciting. The Apostles are amazing. All but John end up dying, and they died for their beliefs. Paul got stoned twice so far. How he survived that is beyond me!
Caring for a New Fish
I got a new fish. A wee little neon goby. Bless its heart. It had ich. It was so sick. It’s still in quarantine for two more weeks. It has perked way up, and so far no ich since I did the container switch method. Hopefully, it doesn’t break out again. It’s a cutie. I’ve been feeding it live brine shrimp. Tonight she surprised me. I dropped in some flakes for the two tiny hermit crabs I have in her tank to keep her company. She was on those flakes scarfing away. First time ever! She is swimming every where too, and she is no longer in hiding. Yay!
I have my second 20 gallon set up. I have the tank to turn into a sump for it too, but just haven’t had the energy nor the time. The protein skimmer is in to add to it. I just have to do it. Maybe this weekend. We will see.
I’m exhausted. I pour myself into my job plus the extra I’ve recently taken on. I have to go to the grocery store tomorrow. Dave won’t go by himself now, if he can help it. He gets confused so easily. I looked at him hard the other day. He has lost so much weight. He looks so frail. It made me realize that I won’t have that awesome man in my life forever. I love him so much. In fact, more and more every day. I can’t imagine my life without him. So I’m trying to fatten him up. He needs to gain some weight. That last knee surgery really wore him down.
My Job
Someone stole my crayons today.~Grrr~ A young woman had a disabled person with her and asked if she could borrow them to keep her entertained. (I work for a university) So stupid me, I said yes, and she promised to return them. Ha! I keep crayons to entertain the wee ones while the parents come into my office for academic advising. The big plastic animals for toddlers to play with walked off too. ~sigh~ I know who took those.
I did have fun decorating a vase today hoping people will make donations to the Goodie Fund. They love eating the snacks I provide, so hopefully a few more will see the fancy donation jar and pitch in. I love making students happy, but being an admin for a university, I’m not paid a lot. I do what I can though. I like seeing the students smiling, and staff & faculty too.
It’s 7:18 pm, and I’m off to bed. It’s been a hard week.
Sweet dreams. kj